What makes one a Steel Magnolia?


The movie…..Did you ever see the 1989 movie, Steel Magnolias ?   Can you recite the words to just about every line?  Who do you identify with most?  For me, it’s Sally Field’s character, M’lynn.  Sally gives the most incredible depiction of a mother’s love in this movie.  Also, of her pain.  I often wonder of the success of this movie had any of the other iconic women played this role.   Although they are each heros in my book, Sally was the right one for this job!   The scene at the cemetery when she is shouting in anger that her Shelby is gone – this scene was the epitome of pain.  It tore this mama up!

SM2I think once you have gone through losing a child it is kind of a right of passage to don the title of a Steel Magnolia.  Especially when we have been able to carry our precious memories and move forward in our life.  Hence the title of this blog.  Recall that right after that heart-wrenching scene M’lynn’s most faithful and cherished friends were there by her side and even at such an inopportune time, they made her laugh. 

SM1 We need each other to  honor our loved ones, to bond, to grieve and we do so in a way as to not let our grief end us.  We put one foot in front of the other, one day at a time, one step at a time and yes, even one breath at a time and even still, move forward…..together.  XOXO 


6 Comments on “What makes one a Steel Magnolia?

  1. Daniel, you precious soul. Thank you so much for taking the time to leave a message for your boy 🙂 I know he’s thrilled too. You know he was so proud of you and your accomplishments. I feel so blessed to be able to have social media these days, otherwise I wouldn’t be able to see your beautiful babies and family. It often takes me back to the yellow house in Hampton where I used to drop Joey off to stay with you. I really appreciate your prayers Doll. You continue to smile that award winning smile that accents that bubbly personality. Love you and your sweet family too xoxox


  2. Happy Birthday to my best friend Big Joe! I think of you often and you are in all of my best childhood memories. I know that you are in a better place buddy. I’m praying for you Mrs. Dianne. I am now blessed to have three children and I can’t imagine going through what you go through every day. You are such a strong person. I can only hope that I can be as good of a parent as you are for Joey.

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  3. What a beautiful homage, Donna and thank you. This year is the year I walk through it. I know that I’m being called to do some important things. I’m well bodied and abled and while I’ve made it all this way I somehow still feel stuck. I know we must move forward and I surely rest on God’s word that we will meet again. I bet Heaven is a hoot with our two there 🙂 I sure love you too my Magnolia Momma. XOXO


  4. Hello, my fellow Magnolia.
    Yes, unfortunately we do share this title. Your words are beautifully written my friend and such a lovely tribute to your baby boy (I’m sure he is so honored and proud). I know the pain that these special days bring oh so well. I agree 100% not focusing on what we can not change. Those words I have said a thousand times since losing my Chris. We can not, nor should we dwell on the emptiness and pain we feel but rather keep our eyes to heaven for eternity with our babies will be one of our the rewards. Eternity, Wow! So much more than what this world could have offered us. We will all live in paradise along side our loved ones again (your Joey and my Chris) with only peace,happiness, joy and an overabundance abundance of LOVE. We will see our babies again one day! That is a promise from our lord and savior! That is what keeps us going!

    Happy birthday Joey! Your mom is celebrating you today and looking forward to your reunion again. God bless you Dianne and give you strength to make it through this day and every day for the rest of your life because I know not one goes by that he will not be thought of and missed.
    Hugs and love my Magnolia Sister Friend!

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  5. Dianne,

    You definitely are a Sterl Magnolia! Happy Birthday to Joey. He is undoubtedly proud of where you have taken your life.



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